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As we step into this Advent season, I acknowledge those bravely navigating their first Christmas without a beloved loved one. I get it; your world might seem a bit dim right now.

It’s been nine years since we lost my stepson, Ryan. Nine years since “O Holy Night” crashed through my sorrow, reminding me that in the darkest moments, God loves us. God sent his Son, as a reminder of our soul’s worth, as I shared in my meditation.

This is the first Sunday in Advent. Marked by candles—Hope, Peace, Joy, and Love—Advent is a season of light; even the wreath itself signifies continuous life. Focusing on these themes can be a guiding light for those navigating this season without their loved one.

Anticipate the coming light by being the hope that pierces through someone else’s darkness. Each year we select families and charities to give to in Ryan’s name. It’s one of our favorite parts of Christmas.

Cultivate inner peace by keeping your cherished memories close. This year, rediscover joy in small moments and family traditions in holiday celebrations—perhaps use your grandmother’s favorite pie plate or your mother’s treasured sugar cookie recipe. After my mother-in-law passed away a few years ago during the holiday season, we inherited her custom-made Christmas wreath. Hanging it above our fireplace each year helps us remember her.

Grief can be isolating; invite love in. In the first year without Ryan, the holidays felt heavy. Our family rallied around us, traveling to share the season at our home. Embrace your loved ones—wrap your arms around them, make that call, send those texts. As Advent culminates, hold onto 1 Corinthians 16:14: “Let all that you do be done in love.”

Give yourself grace. Don’t expect things to be the same, and don’t force yourself to be happy. It’s okay to skip some things that you would normally do if your heart isn’t in it. The holidays are tough for those who have lost a loved one. Jesus can help us navigate the empty chair with grace and hope.

Now when “O Holy Night” plays, hope resonates in every beat of my heart. In our darkest moments, Jesus taps us on the shoulder—sometimes through the familiar words of a song—opening our eyes to his light-filled presence. Isaiah 53:4 says, “Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows” (KJV). Jesus came not just to forgive sins but to walk with us through our darkest times, a testament to his boundless love.

Thank you for letting me share my journey. Having my devotional in The Upper Room, a publication close to my heart, is a blessing. Wishing peace, hope, and comfort, especially for those facing the holidays without their loved ones. Please share your stories below on facing that first holiday season with an empty chair.