I held on to my son until he whispered, “Mom, I’ve got to go.” Emptiness coursed through my heart as I watched him drive away. After my son Bryant graduated from college last spring, he took a videography job in Montana—two thousand miles away from home—and while I was truly happy for him, I was not so happy for me. Montana sounded so inaccessible; he might as well have moved to China. Weekend visits were impossible. I didn’t know a single person who lived there. Who could he call if he needed someone?
His truck was packed with an old chest, camera equipment, camping gear and a grilled turkey sandwich with pimento cheese. Driving across the country alone was dangerous. I wondered: How can I let him go? Have we prepared him well enough? What if he never moves back home, again? I felt an inward chill as I realized that every state he crossed would be another state lying between us.
When your child moves away, you learn hard lessons that you really don’t want to learn. But as time goes by, I’ve adjusted better than I expected. Here are four things I’ve learned:
Has your child recently left you, too? Gone to college? Just Married? Moved to Montana (or some other distant place)?
I understand how you feel. Don’t fight it. Let go by surrendering to life’s new season. The worst thing we can do is try to keep our lives exactly the same. Cling to the One who can help you through change. Jesus said, “If you grasp and cling to life on your terms, you’ll lose it, but if you let that life go, you’ll get life on God’s terms.” Luke 17:33-34 MSG
May Patterson, author of the book, Seeking a Familiar Face, began writing in response to God’s grace. And by His grace, she has written for magazines such as Focus on the Family and Upper Room, and is a sought-after public speaker. She has a great love for the outdoors, travel and blogging at maypatterson.com.
I join many of those who will pray for you as you seek to discern what you are called to be at this moment. May God grant you the courage to fulfill that calling. May we all open our eyes and see the misery, open our ears and hear the cries of God’s people, and, like God through the Lord Jesus Christ, be incarnate amongst them.”
View a growing list of resources for the spiritual work of overcoming racism.